I've shared some of my thoughts and feelings with certain people in the past and have found that they can not be trusted. How do I know this? Well, people tend to talk and stories tend to make their way back full circle and I find myself explaining (sometimes to mere acquaintances) that "no, that is not what I said/meant/think; who or what gave you that idea"? I can track most of these "stories" back to their source. You can imagine my dismay to find that someone has managed to twist what I said, added a little of their own imaginative thinking, and spread this around as gospel truth. Somehow they think they have the inside track on my psyche since I shared something with them. So I no longer share my thoughts and feelings with these people. I'm guessing that they might make up even more imaginative "stories" about me since they lack any real insights, but I can live with that more easily than I can live with what I consider a breach of trust.
So, you've probably guessed by now that this little rant has not come out of thin air. Something happened.
It happened recently. One of my blog posts was mentioned. This mention prompted someone else (who hitherto had been in the dark about my blogging) to pounce on the topic of blogging and ask for the URL to my blog. I mumbled something vague and changed the topic immediately. I'm hoping that my blog will be forgotten. Yes, I'm counting on the "brain fade" factor. Realistically I don't expect this reprieve to last forever and will need to make a decision on how I will handle this situation. Here are a few options I will consider:
- Give the person the URL and let them think and say what they will.
- Look the person in the eye and say, "Blog? What blog"?
- Point the person to my boring professional blog.
- Tell the person that I write my blog posts for a certain community of readers, which is essentially saying ...
- "No, I don't want to share my blog with you."
A person very sympathetic to my dilemma suggested I create a fake blog. I love this idea! A blog stand-in!
So, what would you do?