Monday, May 14, 2007

Blog? What Blog?

It isn't meant to be a secret. After all, I've created this space that anyone in the world can visit. I don't really use my blog to "tell all" or rant about particular people. Yet I'd rather not share my blog with everyone. OK, I'd rather not share my blog with certain people. It is personal. Even if I do tend to be circumspect in what I say and how I say it, I don't want to overly censor myself; that would take much of the joy out my writing space.

I've shared some of my thoughts and feelings with certain people in the past and have found that they can not be trusted. How do I know this? Well, people tend to talk and stories tend to make their way back full circle and I find myself explaining (sometimes to mere acquaintances) that "no, that is not what I said/meant/think; who or what gave you that idea"? I can track most of these "stories" back to their source. You can imagine my dismay to find that someone has managed to twist what I said, added a little of their own imaginative thinking, and spread this around as gospel truth. Somehow they think they have the inside track on my psyche since I shared something with them. So I no longer share my thoughts and feelings with these people. I'm guessing that they might make up even more imaginative "stories" about me since they lack any real insights, but I can live with that more easily than I can live with what I consider a breach of trust.

So, you've probably guessed by now that this little rant has not come out of thin air. Something happened.

It happened recently. One of my blog posts was mentioned. This mention prompted someone else (who hitherto had been in the dark about my blogging) to pounce on the topic of blogging and ask for the URL to my blog. I mumbled something vague and changed the topic immediately. I'm hoping that my blog will be forgotten. Yes, I'm counting on the "brain fade" factor. Realistically I don't expect this reprieve to last forever and will need to make a decision on how I will handle this situation. Here are a few options I will consider:

  1. Give the person the URL and let them think and say what they will.
  2. Look the person in the eye and say, "Blog? What blog"?
  3. Point the person to my boring professional blog.
  4. Tell the person that I write my blog posts for a certain community of readers, which is essentially saying ...
  5. "No, I don't want to share my blog with you."

A person very sympathetic to my dilemma suggested I create a fake blog. I love this idea! A blog stand-in!

So, what would you do?

6 comments:

  1. Well, there's what i'd do and then there's my mother who has given my address to everyone in town. Circumspect! I must be circumspect!

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  2. Hmmmmm, who could we be talking about????? I'd give the professional blog. They will quickly get bored and quit reading....maybe.

    A.

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  3. If you've already got a professional blog to act as stand-in it saves you the trouble of starting the fake blog. Still, though - the fake blog could be fun, especially if you started posting VERY frequently...

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  4. Well, you know what I would do!

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  5. I'd go with the professional blog. But, it's not that boring to me! :-)

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  6. Do you know what I want to do? I want to create a blog that just sits out there as a warning ... you know ...? "This is what I did ... it went very badly.... This is what else i know someone else did.... Yeah ... Don't do any of these things!" And it would also cover ... "here's what i am actually thinking right this very minute about a certain person or persons or ...."

    This of course would not do as a stand in fake blog.

    I don't think I would know how to do one of those? Is that one of those things where you blog about photos of your dinner and never mention who ate with you nor where you ate?

    Maybe you could just post a daily photo of your pet?

    Maybe ... maybe ... just maybe "real" bloggers don't know how to be boring enough to create a fake blog.

    But back to that daily photo of your pet ... you could do that and hook up google ad sense and just make a kill'n

    well that's what they want us to believe ... you know all the get rich quick overnight people.

    geeeze maybe i've been away from blog-ville a bit long ...

    maybe ... maybe i just needed a topic.

    hugs
    pam

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